I just posted this over at Facebook:
The hype is over and the echoes of an over-enthusiastic applause, fueled by the moment, have died.
After the party has finished and they've all gone home, the stray plates and leftovers have been cleared away and we are left to ponder on what just happened. That is just what I have been doing.
I love the social web and the potential it holds to connect us, to help us discover and to learn. If it didn't I wouldn't blog about it. Ever since joining Twitter nearly 5 years ago I recognised the impact social media could have.
The idea of feeding more of our lives to a stream on the web may seem creepy to some but I relish the opportunity.
In "real life" I don't have a big social circle and don't keep in touch with old school friends so, in a way, the Facebook of the past was a bit lost on me.
Friending someone often felt false so I stopped doing it which is why I have less than 60 people in my list. How many of those do I actually 'know' in real life? Probably about half.
This last week has revolutionised how I can use Facebook. Subscriptions mean that I can connect with people I don't really know without having to feel guilty; and, I'm sure I'm not alone.
These latest changes give Facebook a whole new lease of life and this is where other networks have failed in the past. I think of the service as the Madonna of social: always ready to re-invent itself with a new image that better suits the times.
I have spoken a few times recently about the "social norm" - an expectation by the public of what any given product or service should offer; Facebook meets, and often surpasses, the social norm.
It has been a gradual process but the world is learning to live online with all that it entails; what our social networks do now would have been unthinkable just a few years ago - at least for most. As the acceptance of online life has grown so our networks have needed to accommodate these broadening horizons and no-one does this better than Facebook.
Mark Zuckerberg may be called naive by some for expecting us all to share our lives in blissful ignorance but 800 million Facebook users illustrates that people do want to share or else they wouldn't be here.
I believe we are not just seeing a change in functionality but a shift in ethos - a gradual change in our behaviour that integrates technology with our deep-set social instincts.
Social is not a new phenomenon, we have all been social since our ancestors gathered in caves in order to survive. With some exceptions, we crave human contact and interaction and enjoy the feeling of being part of something larger than ourselves - that feeling we belong.
We go to pubs and clubs or sporting events to be part of the crowd, we watch TV and have our water cooler moments where we can share a common interest if for just a brief time. Technology is reaching the point where it can enhance and even, to a degree, replicate these scenarios; anyone who can connect us in this way is akin to the skilled party host choosing their guests to ensure a good mix and an enjoyable evening.
Facebook has become the host of the biggest party of all and I think it's time I started accepting the invitations.